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Re: It's a matter of time

Postby ~MP3 Amplifier~ » January 9th, 2014, 1:41 am

Wow, Ven's problem back then doesn't seem all that different from mine right now. o.o (except I can guarantee good sleep, well I'd sleep all the time if I could)
And it's nice that lots of people have decided to contribute here. I was nearly forced into taking medication last year which scared me a lot because the last thing I want is to end up like my dad.
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Re: It's a matter of time

Postby NanTheDark » January 9th, 2014, 9:09 am

This is probably gonna sound mean and stupid, but I have to ask,

Why is there so much people in this site with depression problems? It amazes me sometimes.

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Re: It's a matter of time

Postby ~MP3 Amplifier~ » January 9th, 2014, 9:35 am

1 in 4 people suffer mental illness according to statistics. And many of us here rely on this website a lot, and find freedom on the internet (or at least I do). So I'm not at all surprised.
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Re: It's a matter of time

Postby NanTheDark » January 9th, 2014, 10:17 am

I'm not sure if depression should be considered a mental illness, but ok...
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Re: It's a matter of time

Postby ~MP3 Amplifier~ » January 9th, 2014, 10:47 am

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Depression is a mental illness. Not considered one. It actually is one.
It can be anything from bipolar and manic depression to severe and major depressive disorder. It's not just one specific thing, it's actually a category of disorders.
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Re: It's a matter of time

Postby JSlayerXero » January 9th, 2014, 12:18 pm

Venexis wrote:Of course, this is just my experience and there is more to the story- I may not have needed pills at all, just a while to properly accept certain events in my life at the time. However, I do feel like everyone who is writing them off as unsafe should consider this: Do the relatively few people who experience side effects (and the much smaller percentage of people who suffer severe reactions in response to such medication) invalidate the vast majority who are able to resume normal lives after a few months taking them?


I can see where you're coming from. I've already posted my source as to why I'm against them. To offer a counter-question, is it really worth risking people potentially getting affected by homicidal or suicidal ideation; both of which not only stop them from resuming normal lives, but can result in the ending of life? The source I posted also mentioned the only reason for ADHD pills, stated by the person who came up with it, was to starts kids on drug addiction. The pharmacy has a history of being malicious, even if the doctors and psychiatrists aren't. They might not even know any better because they were taught prescribe drug Q when patient has illness V. Although I can't remember whether I read that myself or listened to some one around here doing research on big pharma. Whether it would require winning the lottery for the negatives or the positives, I'd rather not risk it in general when it comes to pharmaceuticals. Maybe it's just me. Maybe I'm an idiot. Maybe I'm right. My opinion doesn't mean anything unless you want it to.
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Re: It's a matter of time

Postby Kimonio » January 9th, 2014, 6:20 pm

As someone who takes anti-depressants as well for anxieties and stress, it does come with particular side effects, like insomnia or inducing sleep, headaches, sometimes it can change personality if OD or you quit them instead of weening when a doctor says to. There really aren't much cases where they can clash with the person, unless the person has a medical history that may hinder them from taking in particular chemical compounds.

NanTheDark wrote:This is probably gonna sound mean and stupid, but I have to ask,

Why is there so much people in this site with depression problems? It amazes me sometimes.

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No need to feel stupid or mean, you raised a valid question. Which I can try to answer as best as I can...
Depression is caused by a variety of factors, if not genetics at times. But more commonly it happens due to the environment around us. Maybe we have seen ♥♥♥♥ we should never have seen, maybe we were bullied, maybe our self-esteem is super low. Maybe we have a bad self-image of ourselves. Maybe we wonder our meaning on the world, and that in turn forces us to question life and why we do not cease to exist as a human being. This all leads to depression, which is basically a really low mood where a person feels like absolute ♥♥♥♥, to the point they just go "♥♥♥♥ it" and don't do a thing. It can cause a person to eat/stop eating(in this case, I have no appetite), it can hinder sleep, it can make a person cranky or moody, it can make a person feel pain in their body when they move, and it can even cause a sense of self-worth, or lack thereof. We all come from different backgrounds in real life. Some of us have underlying disorders that can trigger depression if clashing with the wrong circumstances. Some of us have been abused, molested, raped, or have gotten into the wrong crowd. Some of us cut, some of us drink, some of us smoke. Depression can happen to anybody, because depression is basically sadness. HOWEVER, depression can also become very very bad, and last for days on end, making it a disorder then, as Amp explained.
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Re: It's a matter of time

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Postby Venexis » January 9th, 2014, 7:38 pm

JSlayerXero wrote:I can see where you're coming from. I've already posted my source as to why I'm against them. To offer a counter-question, is it really worth risking people potentially getting affected by homicidal or suicidal ideation; both of which not only stop them from resuming normal lives, but can result in the ending of life? The source I posted also mentioned the only reason for ADHD pills, stated by the person who came up with it, was to starts kids on drug addiction. The pharmacy has a history of being malicious, even if the doctors and psychiatrists aren't. They might not even know any better because they were taught prescribe drug Q when patient has illness V. Although I can't remember whether I read that myself or listened to some one around here doing research on big pharma. Whether it would require winning the lottery for the negatives or the positives, I'd rather not risk it in general when it comes to pharmaceuticals. Maybe it's just me. Maybe I'm an idiot. Maybe I'm right. My opinion doesn't mean anything unless you want it to.

We live in an age where minor medical miracles happen every other day, where technology can become outdated in a matter of weeks. It's perfectly reasonable to be skeptical. Skepticism is the intelligent move, when there are so many people with shady motives and no easy way to sift through.

That being said, your counter-question is akin to asking if we should go outside to enjoy the sunlight- knowing fully well that UV radiation from the sun is well known for causing cancer without the proper precautions.

I appreciate warm summer days as much as the next guy. Sure, the sun's UV rays might not be something you'd want to sit in for days on end. Sunburns suck, and they're relatively minor. But who doesn't enjoy spending a day at the beach? Sunlight generally makes people happier. It's also been proven that humans synthesize vitamin D from it, which is a crucial part of calcium metabolism (among other things, including roles in the immune system and lowering risks of heart attack). These things have been investigated, and there is convincing evidence for them. Of course there is still a risk of skin cancer, but my answer (along with the majority opinion) is that we should go outside and enjoy the sun anyway.

Why? The last two words of that second paragraph: proper precautions. If you're going to be out in the sun for several hours, you'd wear a hat, sunglasses, sunscreen. Things that minimize that risk. When sunbathing, you rotate to ensure you don't burn. People intuitively seek shade and water when it's hot out. These things don't entirely eliminate the risk, but they dramatically reduce the chances of negative side effects.

Similarly, while there are risks to such medications, they can also be sharply decreased with the right preparation. If a drug is expected to make you feel differently, get the doctor to explain how it does so. What side effects are likely? How long will it take to "kick in"? What things are not normal? Are there any less invasive/more effective alternatives? If the condition worsens, you wouldn't just wait around and hope it passes, you'd go back to the doctor and figure out why, to set things right again. Research online. If nothing else, you'd verify that the doctor is trustworthy and knows what he's talking about.

Which brings us to the final point- these things do not eliminate the risk, only reduce it as much as possible. This is why such treatments usually include a medication component (temporarily fixing the issue), a therapy component (targeting the underlying cause, so that medication will ultimately become redundant and discontinued) and ideally a support component (friends and family who would be understanding and most importantly get help if for some reason there's an adverse reaction to any of the above). I did check your source, and while unfortunate, a majority of the cases brought up in the video seem like they could have been preventable. (It only mentioned the medication component, and while I would not feel confident in saying that the other two more important parts were absent, the implication is there.) Friends, teachers, and parents especially should have noticed something off in behavior patterns (no improvement, worsening depression, new tendencies toward violence, etc.) even if the individual himself did not come forward. Killing another human is very extreme and there tend to be warning signs leading up to such acts.

I do not mean to disrespect you, Xero, but we will never have a perfect society- if we did, such treatment would be unneeded. The best we can do is find the most effective means and then try to reduce the innate risk as much as possible. We would not forsake the sun and its benefits, we would limit our exposure and take precautions when that isn't possible. Similarly, I do not believe it is wise to ignore a treatment that has helped many based solely on the actions of a few well-publicized incidents. We should instead be aware of our roles, both as doctors/pharmacists/therapists, as patients, and as individuals who interact with others on a human level every day to take every possible precaution against such things happening in the future.



I see this has become a wall of text again, so perhaps we should continue this via private messaging or Doram's topic. I do enjoy a good debate, but multiple paragraphs tend to be intimidating, and this seems to be going off on slight tangent.
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Re: It's a matter of time

Postby JSlayerXero » January 9th, 2014, 8:09 pm

Venexis wrote:That being said, your counter-question is akin to asking if we should go outside to enjoy the sunlight- knowing fully well that UV radiation from the sun is well known for causing cancer without the proper precautions.

I would call this idea out for being stupid but I'm sure nobody would listen to me because I can't remember sources to save my life.

Venexis wrote:Are there any less invasive/more effective alternatives? ... Research online. If nothing else, you'd verify that the doctor is trustworthy and knows what he's talking about.

I've read of natural ways to cure cancer that has been said to cure many forms of it but nobody puts money into it because it isn't profitable even if it does work. It's all natural. I'd trust nature long before I trust humanity.

Venexis wrote:I do not mean to disrespect you, Xero, but we will never have a perfect society- if we did, such treatment would be unneeded.

While I call bogus on the sun causing cancer, on that assumption, society has nothing to do with that unless you assume humans are responsible for nature being corrupted. Being a creationist I do, but I question the importance in this discussion.

Venexis wrote:I see this has become a wall of text again, so perhaps we should continue this via private messaging or Doram's topic. I do enjoy a good debate, but multiple paragraphs tend to be intimidating, and this seems to be going off on slight tangent.

I've been keeping my responses as short because I know I can drone on when unnecessary. I'd still rather try something other than man-made drugs if it's possible. Call me an insane idiot if it makes you feel better. I'm stubborn, so it might be better to no mentioning my name in your response.

Edit: As an expert in acting like an idiot, I'm sorry for being the useless one. I realized the topic got derailed to me, so I was trying to stop that. Sorry for not finding a nicer way to voice myself. I guess exaggeration isn't welcome here.
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Re: It's a matter of time

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Postby darthbrowser » January 10th, 2014, 1:17 am

JSlayerXero...ponder what I have to say.

Throughout this thread, and the sporadic, seemingly off-topic debates it has created, you have been defensive - if not passive-aggressive - and have also been the only one acting in such a manner. I'm not trying to call you out or reprimand you - I despise the prospect of getting involved in things like this - but the goal here is help and support Ayrayen, utilizing whatever experiences we ourselves have to do so.

For instance, this;

JSlayerXero wrote:Are you trying to imply something about me?


You were replying to ~MP3 Amplifier~, who hadn't even mentioned you in her post, or even made it seem as if it was directed towards anyone. Why respond so protectively? Considering what Ayrayen has to face, her concern about suicide being considered a catalyst of instant damnation was certainly a valid thought for her to express - not an underhanded swipe at you because you've identified yourself as a Christian. Can't we all give people on this board the benefit of the doubt, and assume they aren't trying to insult is if that question arises - especially in a thread like this, when another member needs our help and support?

And then, this:

JSlayerXero wrote:I've been keeping my responses as short because I know I can drone on when unnecessary. Don't know why you did. I've been actively avoiding it when possible...Call me an insane idiot if it makes you feel better, because I can almost guarantee you if you're trying to convince me I'm wrong about something I have a strong opinion or especially a full-out strong belief on, you're usually wasting your breath, especially when you use something I'm convinced is false, as proof. I've said my piece. I didn't expect a Spanish Inquisition.


Did you really feel Venexis deserved that tone of response? Sure, he made an argument which was anathema to yours, but was he was objective throughout, and certainly didn't make any form of personal attack - implied or otherwise. He even stated as much,
Venexis wrote:I do not mean to disrespect you, Xero
It was merely his opinion on the subject, why retort with "I didn't expect a Spanish Inquisition.?"

Again, I hate to make a post so asinine in terms of the overall thread, and normally I would be most content to ignore such a problem, but this isn't just any thread.

Ayrayen needs our help. And while the sheer activity in this thread is an outpouring of support in and of itself, the last thing he needs is personal agendas and would-be flame wars drowning out what people should be in this thread to do.

This is the first post I've made on this site directed at anyone in such a way. It is 3:00 A.M. here, and as many of you know, my thoughts have not been entirely lucid recently, so perhaps that is why I feel so strongly now - but my point remains.

I know what Ayrayen is going through, and the last thing he needs - or deserves - is to be ignored and mocked by having to watch his thread being derailed into an "anything goes" debate topic with the associated petty bickering.
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