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Re: The topic to get help

Postby ~MP3 Amplifier~ » May 18th, 2013, 10:07 am

Only really beneficial to people in the US though. I've texted but lost sooo much money. Texting and/or calling foreign numbers are always pretty expensive. :S
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Re: The topic to get help

Postby Venexis » May 18th, 2013, 12:41 pm

Facebook would probably be fine, same thing as Skype really. Phone numbers are always a little risky, though. I'd recommend editing that out immediately- I doubt anyone here would abuse it but there's a lot more traffic going through here than just us regulars.
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Re: The topic to get help

Postby ~MP3 Amplifier~ » May 18th, 2013, 12:45 pm

Yeah- I'd personally never give away my number over the internet unless I truly trusted who I was talking to. And even then I very rarely have money to text. o.o
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Re: The topic to get help

Postby Mr_SaxMan » May 19th, 2013, 9:06 am

NanTheDark wrote:I'm going to add you...

I can't believe you're giving away your phone number and Facebook...


I monitor my Facebook, and I can block whoever decides to annoy/offend me, and the phone thing is pretty much temporary. This is a small forum. If I were posting this in 4chan, I'd receive hundreds of pranks, but because this forum is small and rather intelligent, I found it useful, especially if a person is to be asking for help in need of some guidance or just empathy/friendliness.

Also, unless my bills gonna be run up the wall, prank calls aren't the worst.
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Re: The topic to get help

Postby Buff_ » May 19th, 2013, 9:18 am

This is also a small forum which is publicly viewable by anyone who just happens to waltz in here - including people from 4chan. Putting your phone number and facebook here is just.. not a good idea.
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Re: The topic to get help

Postby Mr_SaxMan » May 19th, 2013, 2:31 pm

It's gone, and I'm urging Nan to get rid of it. Done deal.
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Re: The topic to get help

Postby Avo » August 28th, 2013, 5:26 am

This is the topic to get help? Well I guess I need help, I really need help.

I guess you know about the girl I like and what not, well, I don't really know how to put it, I guess I simply got rejected. She told me a while ago that she didn't feel the same way towards me, so I guess I should have saw this coming...but still...it's been like a year and a half since I started liking her, and it's just really hard to accept this.

She told me that she wanted to be friends, and I guess I'm fine with that. I don't really know honestly, I don't know what to think of this whole thing. I was fine when she told me last night...but I woke up an hour ago, and I guess all these thoughts hit me at once. What if I never find another girl like her? What if she starts going out with some other guy soon? Was all the effort I put into this all for nothing?

It's like this all hit me at once, I started bawling my eyes out, I still am crying right now as I type this. This is too much to handle. It's never happened to me before. I've never had my heart broken.

I guess I just need help coping, because it's really hard and I don't know if it's gonna get worse in the future.

EDIT: I'm not going into any more detail because...well, it's still very personal, but I still would like advice on how to cope with this.

EDIT 2: Well I calmed down a bit, watched some ♥♥♥♥ on YouTube and made me feel a bit better, but still, advice I guess. :/
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Re: The topic to get help

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Postby Venexis » August 28th, 2013, 7:31 am

First, it's perfectly normal to feel that way. It means you're human, and capable of caring about other humans. That is a very good thing.

Second, it's never going to last forever. It hurts like a ♥♥♥♥♥ now, but you've got your entire life in front of you, and it's going to be full of unique and fascinating people. The important thing is that you remember that you are an awesome person, even though you probably don't feel like it now. It'll pass, you'll have her as a friend (should you choose to, of course- it's going to be difficult at first but I promise it gets easier), and you'll both be a bit wiser from the experience.

Fact is, most younger relationships do fail, because it's a difficult phase where neither of you really knows what you want- from life, from the future, from a spouse. It's infinitely better for it to fail now than years later on, and now it'll be easier to sketch out a rough draft of the things you do want.

So as for advice. You're a great guy with an awesome future ahead of you. The "friendzone" doesn't exist, her rejection just means that you weren't quite compatible as partners, but you can still gain a friend. Just don't let it control your life. You like her now, but standards change as you get older and one day you'll meet someone who's 100% compatible with you. It's worth it. Don't give up hope. And we've got your back if you need to talk.
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Re: The topic to get help

Postby Killswitch » August 29th, 2013, 4:06 pm

Not really sure if this post is anything related to your post above, Avo.

Hmm....I'm not really a good dating coach but I'll try giving some info:

If she isn't really romantically interested in you (no matter how hard you try), then it would better if you look for someone else. Your ideal mate is probably someone else out there somewhere. ;)

I'm sorry if this somewhat offends you, though. Some of my few true friends in high school told me this when I was "feeling down" from someone.
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Re: The topic to get help

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Postby Avo » August 30th, 2013, 7:23 am

Thank you, Ven. That actually did help quite a bit. And KS, that's actually really good advice, thanks for your help. (:

Everything should be fine from here on out. I'll see what happens when school starts in 4 days.
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