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Re: Bullying is not okay.

Postby Bogdan » June 26th, 2013, 10:58 am

Emelia Kaylee wrote:You know what I do when I get bullied?

Respond back.

I usually have a few retorts to keep them on their toes.


Somebody said "the smart one gives up first". You respond back, if he doesn't respond to you too he proves he is smarter. If he or you respond immediately or even later this is going to continue for some time and it may end bad for one or both sides. You become like them when you respond, you don't prove yourself superior. I personally stopped paying attention to my bullies, I have better things to do.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.

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Postby Ridder » June 26th, 2013, 1:52 pm

I really wish I had something to say here, but I don't have a personal noteworthy bullying story here, particularly because I was too odd to make bullying me work, but I can say this-


Ignoring the problem only works half the time, the rest of the time, things actually get worse. Each situation is different and calls for different solutions.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.

Postby NanTheDark » June 26th, 2013, 1:59 pm

nin10mode wrote:The one instance that I was bullied, I brought a blunt metal object. Sure, I almost got suspended,but they don't bother me anymore.

Don't do what I do, I'm usually very extremist when dealing with personal problems.


I once threatened some bullies with a blade. :3
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Re: Bullying is not okay.

Postby Raz » June 26th, 2013, 2:10 pm

NanTheDark wrote:
nin10mode wrote:The one instance that I was bullied, I brought a blunt metal object. Sure, I almost got suspended,but they don't bother me anymore.

Don't do what I do, I'm usually very extremist when dealing with personal problems.


I once threatened some bullies with a blade. :3

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Re: Bullying is not okay.

Postby NanTheDark » June 26th, 2013, 2:30 pm

I know... I just wanted to share my experience of threatening someone with a weapon, like nin did...

I'm not proud of that.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.

Postby Bogdan » June 27th, 2013, 4:05 am

I'd suggest not threaten them if you are not mentally and physically ready to show resistance. Plus you can get more problems from threating them with weapons or any other objects that may injury people and in this case it makes you the bad one. Running away is shameful, but it's healthy.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.

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Postby ~MP3 Amplifier~ » June 27th, 2013, 8:12 am

I don't wanna make a huge long post but verbal bullying should NOT be underestimated.

Bullying causes huge rates of teenage suicides every year and that can be physical, sexual, cyber or verbal bullying or any others I missed. From personal experience, verbal bullying was the ultimate worst for me at the time. Words can hurt more than actions a lot of the time.

As much as I am against bullying, for me I found it's most common that the bullies have a lot going on in their lives as it is, and they may use this as a distraction. Believe me I still hate it just as much but it would be a mistake to call all bullies selfish or bad people. As selfish as they act in taking this choice to reduce their own problems, maybe there is a very different story going on inside. In my experience I remember a girl turning into a bully and I noticed her surname had changed- perhaps she was stressed and torn apart from the divorce of her parents. The other girl who mostly ruined my life was suicidal at the time.

Anyway that's my word on the subject. Most people have bullied somebody in their life at least once, whether it was serious or just a passing remark or tease. Even I have once or twice without realising at the time, but I would never do it knowingly.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.

Postby Americankid » June 27th, 2013, 10:38 am

~MP3 Amplifier~ wrote:I don't wanna make a huge long post but verbal bullying should NOT be underestimated.

Bullying causes huge rates of teenage suicides every year and that can be physical, sexual, cyber or verbal bullying or any others I missed. From personal experience, verbal bullying was the ultimate worst for me at the time. Words can hurt more than actions a lot of the time.

As much as I am against bullying, for me I found it's most common that the bullies have a lot going on in their lives as it is, and they may use this as a distraction. Believe me I still hate it just as much but it would be a mistake to call all bullies selfish or bad people. As selfish as they act in taking this choice to reduce their own problems, maybe there is a very different story going on inside. In my experience I remember a girl turning into a bully and I noticed her surname had changed- perhaps she was stressed and torn apart from the divorce of her parents. The other girl who mostly ruined my life was suicidal at the time.

Anyway that's my word on the subject. Most people have bullied somebody in their life at least once, whether it was serious or just a passing remark or tease. Even I have once or twice without realising at the time, but I would never do it knowingly.

Well thank you for sharing your story. I am against bullying too.Well I don't know what to say so :( .
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Re: Bullying is not okay.

Postby *Emelia K. Fletcher » June 27th, 2013, 11:44 am

Clearly what I said is completely out of order, so let me apologize for saying anything you thought was offensive and I'll leave now


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Re: Bullying is not okay.

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Postby Kimonio » June 28th, 2013, 8:37 pm

When you respond to thw bully, you feed the buully. When you walk away you give thwm fuel to call you coward. Tell an adult you can do...but for how line ng?

In all actuality we are all bullies. We get insulted, but how often do we talk bad bout people and friends? I was bullied from fifth to my freshman grade in school. I was verbally picked on, one kid punched me and lied abou how I was harassing him, and I was called ♥♥♥ for half my life. And I hate it.

While TV and media give suggestions, they neglect to notice that maybe bullies are getting tips on other methods. And while we think threatwning and standing up will defend our estewm from harassment, inside we feel the pain.

So my idea? Maybe bullying is just how we grow up. Survival of the fittest with a few perks. Some grow from it, some are aided against the bully with friends, andsome....just werwnt fit.

We all bully. It is human nature. It has gone on for centuries. Alway will. It is a childhood phasewe must gtow out of as we reach adolesence.

No advice will work for every person. We must advise ourselves sometimes or recieve aid from allies. But walking away will never solve anything. All you do is piblcally show you are cowardly fleeing your fears...you need to stnd up and defend yourself. Dnt fight. Dont lash out with words. Never be violent.

Let it pass. Ignore it.
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