Bullying is not okay.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
by CedarBranch » June 29th, 2013, 7:59 am
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
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by nin10mode » June 29th, 2013, 8:42 am
Again, it depends on the situation. I ignored my bullies at first, and they took it as "We have free reign over him! Keep going!"
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
by Ridder » June 29th, 2013, 9:42 am
nin10mode wrote:Again, it depends on the situation. I ignored my bullies at first, and they took it as "We have free reign over him! Keep going!"
I think I can describe to you guys how exactly I think this bullying thing goes.
It's like this animal survival test thing I once took that gave you options on what to do when encountering various wild animals.
If you come across a wild bear, assuming you didn't like, kill it's cub or something stupid like that, going into the fetal position and staying as low as possible usually works in that the bear loses interest and keeps on going.
If you came across a wild pack of hyenas, go into the fetal position and stay as low as possible, and they're going to devour you till you've got nothing left to devour.
However, if you were to try and intimidate the pack of hyenas, they're more likely to run away in fear.
On the alternative end of that, if you were try and intimidate the wild bear, well, that big mean mother hubbard would be inclined to tear you a structurally superfluous new behind.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
by Killswitch » June 29th, 2013, 6:40 pm
I'm actually fine with verbal bullying. I can fight words with words. In other words, I can turn their verbal jokes against them.
I'm not OK with physical bullying and threatening words. If a person hurts me physically, then I won't care about him/her forever.
I'm not OK with physical bullying and threatening words. If a person hurts me physically, then I won't care about him/her forever.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
by nin10mode » June 29th, 2013, 10:42 pm
Meanwhile, I feel the opposite. I find words spread rumors, and rumors escalate. I'd rather fight because I know I'm capable, and it has the opposite effect. The bully gets rumors and I get a boost in rep. Plus he doesn't bother me anymore now that he knows I'm capable of defending myself.
I don't believe that you can change bullies easily with words, so I don't try. I'd rather show them bluntly that bullying won't work on me and that they shouldn't bother me.
Again, don't follow my lead if you can't. I feel that Shade and I were the only ones that took this approach.
I don't believe that you can change bullies easily with words, so I don't try. I'd rather show them bluntly that bullying won't work on me and that they shouldn't bother me.
Again, don't follow my lead if you can't. I feel that Shade and I were the only ones that took this approach.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
by Killswitch » June 29th, 2013, 10:51 pm
nin10mode wrote:I don't believe that you can change bullies easily with words, so I don't try. I'd rather show them bluntly that bullying won't work on me and that they shouldn't bother me.
Well, I have no intentions of changing them whatsoever; that's their choice if they want to change or not, I simply don't care about it.
Most of the "bullies" whom I encounter are actually just using rude jokes; I usually come up with counters with these kinds of jokes. Meh.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
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by WickedOreo » June 30th, 2013, 4:27 pm
I've been pushed into a corner many a time where I want to throw punches, but I know I'm physically incapable. Besides being pacifist, I've been called retarded, SPED, to freak, everything in the big book of cliché insults, and it isn't fun at all. Having ASD, I was very different than most of my class, and I was trying to fit in, but they never understood what was going on in my life. So for about 3-5 of my miserable years, I was constantly bullied by people my age and those older. It wasn't until I was a freshman when things sort of calmed down. Sometimes, I'm called names, but it's only by those younger than me, especially those in the eighth grade and younger. I'm a fairly respected person now by those who bullied me back then, but those memories still hurt me immensely.
The earliest I could remember being bullied was by my fourth grade teacher, who was either a student teacher or was fairly new to the position. Either way, I was purposely singled out multiple times because I refused to do my homework. I was trying to make friends because I had only been at that school for a year, but she refused to let me outside towards the end of the year when she let everyone out. I was told I couldn't go outside at least two times and wasn't allowed to do anything. I was excluded from activities one or two times inside the classroom, and she used profanity. I tried to talk to the principal about the issue, but she merely pushed it aside and told me to leave the teacher alone because she was new. This year also happened to mark the first and not the last time I've experienced suicidal thoughts.
Bullying doesn't have to be insults or physical harm. I've been lucky to not have experience a fight here yet, but yet the memories of the past stick to me like cheese sticks to pasta. It doesn't go away for me. Coupled with my enhanced long-term memory retention, I'm unable to cast away the bad thoughts like a lot of people can in their lives. I think the ability to cope with the bully's words/actions towards the victims also contributes to the severity. If you were to forget the entire incident, it wouldn't really faze you, would it?
In Massachusetts, bullying has to be reported in school to a higher power; the principal. In more than one offense, the bully can be taken to court and sentenced to jail. However, how is this law preventing bullies from appearing? Reporting bullying does nothing, and I've reported on more occasions than I can count. In middle school, it's preposterous. No action is really taken, or the bully keeps on doing it. My brother has been a victim of it as well, but he refuses to talk to authorities about it.
So what makes a bully stop it? Standing up to them, ignoring them, or even bullying them back does absolutely nothing. Psychological testing could possibly further identify their issues, but even then, it won't stop anything at all. Most new-generation parents don't affirm these rules in their children nowadays, and their schools are even worse about it, so no wonder why bullies are more commonplace.
The earliest I could remember being bullied was by my fourth grade teacher, who was either a student teacher or was fairly new to the position. Either way, I was purposely singled out multiple times because I refused to do my homework. I was trying to make friends because I had only been at that school for a year, but she refused to let me outside towards the end of the year when she let everyone out. I was told I couldn't go outside at least two times and wasn't allowed to do anything. I was excluded from activities one or two times inside the classroom, and she used profanity. I tried to talk to the principal about the issue, but she merely pushed it aside and told me to leave the teacher alone because she was new. This year also happened to mark the first and not the last time I've experienced suicidal thoughts.
Bullying doesn't have to be insults or physical harm. I've been lucky to not have experience a fight here yet, but yet the memories of the past stick to me like cheese sticks to pasta. It doesn't go away for me. Coupled with my enhanced long-term memory retention, I'm unable to cast away the bad thoughts like a lot of people can in their lives. I think the ability to cope with the bully's words/actions towards the victims also contributes to the severity. If you were to forget the entire incident, it wouldn't really faze you, would it?
In Massachusetts, bullying has to be reported in school to a higher power; the principal. In more than one offense, the bully can be taken to court and sentenced to jail. However, how is this law preventing bullies from appearing? Reporting bullying does nothing, and I've reported on more occasions than I can count. In middle school, it's preposterous. No action is really taken, or the bully keeps on doing it. My brother has been a victim of it as well, but he refuses to talk to authorities about it.
So what makes a bully stop it? Standing up to them, ignoring them, or even bullying them back does absolutely nothing. Psychological testing could possibly further identify their issues, but even then, it won't stop anything at all. Most new-generation parents don't affirm these rules in their children nowadays, and their schools are even worse about it, so no wonder why bullies are more commonplace.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
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by Karyete » July 1st, 2013, 10:34 am
Although I rarely do get picked on (and when I am it is mild irritation and nothing serious) when I was younger my emotions could fly out.
But never have I resorted to threats or violence. Although I do fight for sport, I don't fight for real unless I'm in actual danger.
However, it's easy for one to say 'Ignore it. Walk away' but they don't know the conditions, or know how worked up you may get, or how serious it is. Especially, it's easy if they have never truly been picked on or singled out.
What you do is your choice, and (prepare for cliche right here) the choices you make will affect you in the future, so you have to carefully consider what you can do and how it can affect you or others. But do not simply ignore it, because as mentioned, it can double the danger of the situation.
But never have I resorted to threats or violence. Although I do fight for sport, I don't fight for real unless I'm in actual danger.
However, it's easy for one to say 'Ignore it. Walk away' but they don't know the conditions, or know how worked up you may get, or how serious it is. Especially, it's easy if they have never truly been picked on or singled out.
What you do is your choice, and (prepare for cliche right here) the choices you make will affect you in the future, so you have to carefully consider what you can do and how it can affect you or others. But do not simply ignore it, because as mentioned, it can double the danger of the situation.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
by GMDragon11 » July 1st, 2013, 3:33 pm
Bullying can hurt someone mentally, emotionally, and even sometimes physically. I've never been bullied but I've had some minor conflicts in my life. ( most of these conflicts happen when i was like around 7-10 years old. )
Once someone would hurt my feelings when i was young, instead of telling an adult, i would go RAGE on them. I would jump on them, swear to them, get soo angry that most of the time i would be carried out of the fight by a parent or adult. I had some sort of a temper and since (not to brag or anything) i was pretty strong, i could of hurt the person i was angry at.
Then later on in my life, i realized that what I have been doing was wrong. Whenever i get mad today, i would do the right thing and tell an adult. And whoever is being bullied should telling an adult or guardian also. Don't do what i did when i was young.
Once someone would hurt my feelings when i was young, instead of telling an adult, i would go RAGE on them. I would jump on them, swear to them, get soo angry that most of the time i would be carried out of the fight by a parent or adult. I had some sort of a temper and since (not to brag or anything) i was pretty strong, i could of hurt the person i was angry at.
Then later on in my life, i realized that what I have been doing was wrong. Whenever i get mad today, i would do the right thing and tell an adult. And whoever is being bullied should telling an adult or guardian also. Don't do what i did when i was young.
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Re: Bullying is not okay.
by Kimonio » July 1st, 2013, 5:46 pm
i will say this...bullying will traumatize.
because i have been punched in my face and side f my head by people who get mad at me, i have a horrible trigger to anyone who touches my face. i lash out, i bruise them, i put them in submissive positions by restaining their limbs. just recently i put my mom in a headlock today for grabbing my shoulders to calm me down after a big argument. i mentally took it as a threat and attacked, and almost had the police called on me.
think its easy to let it go, the past will stay. i cannot contain my anger. im dangeous thnks to one bully too many.
its not easy to forgive them. not easy at all...
because i have been punched in my face and side f my head by people who get mad at me, i have a horrible trigger to anyone who touches my face. i lash out, i bruise them, i put them in submissive positions by restaining their limbs. just recently i put my mom in a headlock today for grabbing my shoulders to calm me down after a big argument. i mentally took it as a threat and attacked, and almost had the police called on me.
think its easy to let it go, the past will stay. i cannot contain my anger. im dangeous thnks to one bully too many.
its not easy to forgive them. not easy at all...
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