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I wish I had friends that cared.

I mean, the ones I've got right now are ok, but you hear stuff of people falling head over heels for total strangers over the internet, and.. Well, it's not like I want them to suddenly fall in love, but it'd be nice to be cared about more, to be valued.

Like have someone actually interested in how my day was/is or what I feel like rather than use it to speak about themselves, in general having somebody genuinely interested in me you know?

It may sound selfish, but that's kind of how it is.

It doesn't matter that much where this quote is from (I just got it from a small board in a site made to rip-off a certain Chan of the 4 variety), the important thing is that it got to me. It's funny, you hear about inspirational real life events and quotes every day, but it was this small post on the internet that got to me.

It's probably because I identify with it, a little. I really only have one close friend I can confide in, the rest are just people I happen to spend time with. And even then, I realized that even with my "close" friend, conversations like "how was your day" happen very rarely. This started to bother me.

I know it also depends very heavily on people's wildly varying types of personalities. And I'm not saying not asking everyone "how was your day" means you don't give a ♥♥♥♥ about them, but since I don't know how it IS like to do so, I'd like to find out.

So I decided to first try something here, on Runouw. I replied to Moy's thread with this a while ago but since then the status quo has been kept. I'm doing my part to give a tiny bit back to the community now.

So TL;DR, if you so feel like it, tell me how your day was. Sometimes it can feel like it's hard to find someone who cares, both in chat and in site, as I've been on the giving and receiving end of the ignoring. Maybe you occasionally feel like talking about something that happened to you but feel no one will listen.

If you come into this thread, I can at the very least assure you, I will read what you have to say about your day. The boring stuff that happened on an uneventful day, cool things that happened on a day that you were looking forward to, or ♥♥♥♥ things that ruined said day.

I will also attempt to respond to some of your posts, to further the purpose of the thread. I won't force myself however, if I feel I have nothing to add, because that would just be fake, and feel fake to you.

Don't feel pressured to make a post as long as mine. Keep it short and sweet if you don't really feel like posting much, and don't sweat it.

Your "day" doesn't just mean today. A day is any day. Since I made this thread in the morning, you can tell me about yesterday. Even a year ago, if you really feel like posting something that happened a whole year ago.

If you wanna comment on another person's day, knock yourself out. Please.

I know I'm probably the last person you expected to post something like this, but give me a chance. There may have been other threads similar to this that I may have missed, but please allow me my personal thread. I guarantee I'll check here single post for at least this one week, and if after that the thread grows big, I might have to tone it down. If it dies because no one cared to post about their own life, then that's that. I also kinda wanted Serious Discussion to have some ♥♥♥♥ threads, for once.

And Bryce, if you want me to read your dumb Morrowind post, I'll do that too.

Whenever I get serious on Runouw, I make posts way longer than I should. That is my day.

That was beautiful, sir. I heartily approve. I make sure to spend time every day, when I am at work, to ask my co-workers how they are doing, and listen to their problems. I get a lot of satisfaction from being able to help make their day better, even if all I do is listen. And it's nice to be able to offer advice, and offer other forms of help where possible, and work together to make everything easier.



EDIT: As a matter of fact, I'll take it a step further. Long-term beneficial = sticky.

One of the things I always set out to do is ask my friends how their day is or how they're doing. If nothing else, it gives you something to talk about if you have nothing else to work with. It makes for great small talk. It's also just a nice way to open up a conversation.

Before college I used to be pretty introverted, which I guess isn't hard to imagine considering the amount of time I spent here in the old days. One of the reasons I "left" the forums was to attempt to fix that by spending more time with folks I knew in real life, but as it turned out, most of them were ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥. I fared better in my senior year, when I began to make friends with people that I genuinely liked. That being said, it really wasn't until my first year of college that I felt I could surround myself by a group of people that I truly cared for. One of the reasons I know this is true is because I used to look forward to time off from school, when I wouldn't have to deal with anybody. Now I find myself in just the opposite situation. It's summer vacation right now, and all I can think about is when I'll get to go back to college and see everyone again. I know everyone's individual experience will vary, but for me, college is probably the best change to ever happen in my life.

On the subject of Runouw.com, I feel compelled to say that this was probably the first community that I ever felt a part of. Some of you may remember when I wrote a little story called A Question of Answers. It was superficial, and confusing, and a little cheesy, but people still seemed to like it, so I suppose it wasn't too bad. Still, I don't think I ever managed to properly convey what I was trying to say at that point in my life. So here it goes, in a fairly condensed form: the Runouw community means more to me than I could ever express in words. It gave me friends and happiness in a time when I had little of either. Friendship, I believe, lies at the heart of what Runouw.com is all about, and it's what makes this place so special and unique from anywhere else on the internet. And I'm glad to say that I have finally reached a point in my life where I can associate myself with a community that means as much to me as Runouw.com did all those years ago.

Anyways, none of what I just said probably answers the question lol. To end this, I guess I'll just say that this is the first post for Runouw I've written in a while that is somewhat lengthy, so well done, brando. There's more I could say, but I think this covers the gist of what I wanted to get off my chest.

I love this. (I also take pride as I think I was the first to give this a thumbs up )
I think asking someone how they are is enough to change a person's day from bad to good. Especially if it feels like no-one is interested or no-one cares.

I usually make an effort to ask people how they are when I see them because of this, even my relationship with my mum has improved just because I ask her how she is every couple of hours lol.

It's moments like these that remind me why I just admire the ♥♥♥♥ out of you. Aside from the whole inspiring my entire writing career thing. <3

Is it cheating if I talk about how my day should be going today?

Slightly off topic but relevant: Shoutout to lordpat here for greeting just about everyone who joins IRC by asking them how they're doing whenever he's online. I hadn't really thought much of it until now, but now that I am, I really can't thank you enough for doing this.

wow, so many thumbs up

I'm actually not sure how I'm supposed to handle this - shall this be a room for rants about bad luck in life, for saying "Yeah, Schalke 04 won, I'm so happy now", or for telling my worries for the future?

As a positive human being, I could almost always say I have a good day and I enjoy my life, even if I'm held back by things right now. Just yesterday I had to undergo an operation because of a jeep disease, and now I spend my day almost only with my PC, but I still stand this and distract myself with music and Last Legacy and whatnot.

I probably won't flood this topic (or will I?) but it will be very interesting to hear what you have to say.

Cheers

Well, may as well.

Today I'm reading most of your hand in mine live for the celebration of our lit mag release. I'm excited because this is like another step to my dream, but I'm also nervous because this is a heavily emotional peace for me (I ♥♥♥♥ cried during the practice run) because of how intricately this ties into both my relationship with someone I love and with myself. And I'm worried I'll end up bawling again up there. Which could be good or bad. Either way, I'm finally "out there" as a writer and it's just... really, really, really big.

Also I'm suffering from a growing crush on this cute gadfly in my physics class (I really love my entire physics table) and I'm almost certain she is miles out of my league and/or taken and like eight years older than me. I dunno, she's quirky, funny, has a really adorably blunt way of speaking, is a total sweetheart wrapped up in a gleeful tease. Super attractive individual. But honestly I have a lot of personal ♥♥♥♥ to sort before I date anyone.

-OJ wrote:Slightly off topic but relevant: Shoutout to lordpat here for greeting just about everyone who joins IRC by asking them how they're doing whenever he's online. I hadn't really thought much of it until now, but now that I am, I really can't thank you enough for doing this.

THIS. Even though I often don't reply or reply vaguely to these, please know that I really appreciate you.

Anyway. My high school graduation ceremony is later today. I went to get a haircut so that I would look nice, and the barber asked me, "What grade are you going into? Ninth grade?" And then when I didn't respond, she revised her guess: "Eighth grade?" So there's that.

KABOOM wrote:Anyway. My high school graduation ceremony is later today. I went to get a haircut so that I would look nice, and the barber asked me, "What grade are you going into? Ninth grade?" And then when I didn't respond, she revised her guess: "Eighth grade?" So there's that.

I don't know how that school system works, how old would you be to be in those grades?