Avolerators wrote:Oh I see how it is, you'll give MoD a review but not MEH? D:
Derp, fine, I'll review your newest story. >:
Mr_SaxMan wrote:... I'm not sure if I woild want the maturity and responsibility or not... Ok, maybe the fun would "die," as Blabberson said, but tons of good things would come also... If I were responsible and mature, I wouldn't have ever gotten depressed, bringing you and me down. I wouldn't get constantly mad at myself for my failures. I wouldn't get as much of the constant ridicule my dad gives me when I don't live up to his or my expectations. I'd be even better at the things that I am good at now. I'd know how to communicate and talk properly. The people who hate me in school probably wouldn't hate me, at least as much. I'd make more sense and be able to spread good ideas around. My grades would be higher. I'd be able to take responsibility for things I want, versus my dad just taking over and pushing me aside... I'm not sure if this missing fun is worth all of the good things that would come out of this...
Like I said, all this worry about missing out on the "fun" of childhood is just a typical standpoint from someone who is maturing; my story is written to sound like a personal experience, but metaphorically, anyone could fit into my position and experience the same issues. For example, I questioned if becoming a Global Mod was through the correct intentions or if it was simply out of luck. I mean, haven't you ever had something good happen to you, only to question if you truly deserved it? And again, this is just a signal of someone who is "growing up". Even though everything is written to be a painful, personal experience, I'm constantly using my own troubles to connect with the real world.
Sax, you say you wouldn't get angry at yourself if you were mature, which is correct; having the ability to forgive yourself and accept your mistakes is not only healthy for yourself, but it gives you the motivation to help others--everyone makes mistakes, after all. And I don't care what anyone says, I don't even care if your parents disagree, and this is not advice to disobey your parents; but you should not succeed simply to to live up to your parent's expectations. I don't know how things run in your household, but I know from experience that ridicule does
not encourage someone to improve from their mistakes. Furthermore, you should not be the best you can be simply to impress them. Your parents have raised you throughout your life, but you still have a full one ahead of you, and there are many more people out there besides them-- you should succeed because you want to, not because you're expected to. If your parents expect perfectness out of you rather than keeping reasonable expectations and supporting you throughout the way, then not only are you sure to disappoint them (and thus, get ridicule), but you also lose faith in yourself and believe the only way to redeem such faith is to do better. The fact that, from what it sounds like, your dad always sets expectations, means that you've fallen under, as one book called it, a
vicious cycle.
And guess what? You're worried about responsibility and maturity, but the only person who can cause you to become mature is yourself. Your parents (from a general standpoint--not you specifically) can punish you all they want, tell you what's right and what's wrong, but if an example isn't set, you haven't learned anything. Trust me, being "grounded" shouldn't even be an option (I've never been grounded; I've made mistakes, but my parents believe it's much more effective to explain my mistakes to me, and this is no way an attempt to brag, but look at me now). Of course, your dad "pushing you aside" is a totally different story, and I can only hope you'll stand up to him one of these days.
Also, you think that being mature means that you'll never become depressed, which is unfortunately not true. Depression is a part of life, and you can't stop yourself from getting it every now and again. It's normal.
And finally, don't push yourself to maturity because you think you have to; doing so is, ironically, a very
immature move. Being "better" at everything should not be your motive; it's not a contest, Sax. Becoming mature is a long process, and you've already started it; you have a self-esteem to build so you can trust yourself for your actions, and nobody can teach you that but yourself.
by *Emelia K. Fletcher » August 18th, 2011, 1:46 pm 
