Get Things Off of Your Chest

[npromin1]

No hard feelings then.

[NanTheDark]

Raz's a ♥♥♥♥ to everyone.

[npromin1]

Updated my sig since I know I'm not leaving.

[Oranjui]

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Harmless (May 5th, 2016, 12:57 am) • NanTheDark (May 1st, 2016, 3:52 pm) • Supershroom (May 1st, 2016, 10:37 pm)

[npromin1]

Nobody was really doing anything,(barring Raz) but I just felt really uncomfortable in chat, like I wasn't welcomed there.

Edit: It was a little bit of everyone. Once I saw that everyone seemed to be ignoring me when I said something, I just started coming on less and less.

[Raz]

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NanTheDark (May 3rd, 2016, 9:42 am) • Oranjui (May 1st, 2016, 4:54 pm)

[npromin1]

Well i'm basically pointing fingers at everyone at once, if at anyone. I just picked you because you called me "a d-word". I wouldn't have centered the blame on you if you didn't do that. It was a little bit of everyone that made me feel uncomfortable, not just you. I also agree that being blunt would make the world much easier, as long as everyone understands there's no hard feelings. And no hard feelings for you, Raz. As for my personality, it's more exaggerated in real life then it is here. It's probably the same as my feelings. i'm a very sensitive person, so I get hurt easily. I'm just glad that I could explain to everyone that i'm feeling a bit uncomfortable in chat. This is why I think the forums are better.

Edit: That's why I said this in: "Get Things Off Your Chest"

[Karyete]

I was in your shoes at one point, npromin. I was very hesitant to go into the chat for a little while.

But it really does help you become a little closer to members of the community. You don't even have to say anything if you don't want to; no one will call you out for staying silent.

Also I'd like to mention that if you see me on chat, you can just send me a private message and I'll talk to you :>

[Supershroom]

Guys, I know that you like jokes and poking around but do you really have to do it mischievously on someone who isn't around for long? (if that fits into the context of this or some earlier time, I wasn't there neither)

Like Kary said, the chat is the right place to get to known with each other, even if sometimes you don't find an occasion to say something because they're talking about gaming or school or weird science etc. :> And it can take some time to become a fixture of the community, I can tell by experience. You can also try the other way a bit and keep establishing yourself further on the forums so you feel more comfortable with chatting. Generally, nice to know that you aren't leaving.

Also, most importantly,

Scared is normal. Scared is common. Scared is OK, BUT you should never let fear stop you. Fear is just a warning from the universe that you need to pay careful attention. The thing is, you have to still try. The only way to learn is to get out there and keep trying. Yes, mistakes will happen, but you need to remain calm about them, and understand them for what they are - stepping stones to success. when you have figured out all the ways to do it wrong, you will have isolated the way to do it right.

Also, I have to get one thing off myself. You just say "Raz can be a ♥♥♥♥ to everyone" with a wink and tolerate it like there's nothing bad about it. That's not good.

[Charcoal]

Something I noticed with me that I've argued with my father about:
I never advocate for myself and take the first step in trying. That's because I'm scared of failing so much. I am clumsy and I have been scorned for that in the past. I feel like I'm doing much better than when I returned here in late September, but the true problem that I may not know still remains. I feel it. It's something I can't seem to let go. I want to succeed in trying. Not be thrown down with failure because I have no knowledge. I want to try no matter what, but I'm too scared perhaps.